I’ve been trying to keep my mouth shut, but well, I have this blog so that I don’ have to. So here goes:

Yes, he did some great stuff, music wise.

Yes, from some rather intimate experience with sexual abuse I feel completely secure in saying that there was definite reason to bring him to trial for molestation. Even if he never, as one person put it, “diddled with a kid”* he WAS sexually inappropriate with many children, which is a lesser evil, but does still cause harm.

Forgetting that he suffered and made bad choices as a result of his upbringing in the limelight is worse than mentioning that he might have been a child molester. Holding him pure and faultless in death is not a tribute to him it is a knife in the side of every man, woman or child who has suffered from sexual (or physical or mental abuse).

Think about it this way, Michael WAS a victim himself and he had no support and no help recovering from his childhood. Look what it did to him. What do you think the people he victimized are going to do? Are going to feel?

It is imperative for the victims of abuse to seek help in recovering, or at the very least become determined to break the cycle instead of continuing it. Because the abused are compelled to abuse others. Like a bee to pollen abusers that were once victims are compelled to try to reprogram the people around them, much like abuse victims find themselves trying to relive their abusive pasts.

It takes determination and support to break free of the cycle of abuse. Michael Jackson had near unlimited resources at his disposal and instead of trying to break the cycle he spent his time trying to reclaim his lost childhood, which took him down a path that is exactly like the ones parents are warned to identify child molesters by. He had an unhealthy interest in children, and just children. He went so far as to fill his property with toys and games–and an amusement park–to attract more children and furthermore specifically went after children who were sick, disturbed or otherwise perfect targets for abuse.

He should not have been allowed to do so. No amount of person victimization gives one the license to abuse others! No amount of bad childhood gives you the right to fuck up someone else’s childhood. And no amount of celebrity or abuse justifies refusing to break the cycle of abuse.

Death and celebrity do not wash the psychological health of victims clean. We should not be crying because Michael Jackson is dead. Death comes for all. We should be crying because we celebrated the man’s abuse, that done to him and that perpetuated by him. We failed him, and we failed those he hurt.

Refusing to let it continue, stepping up and saying no more, doing what Jackson didn’t do in his own life is what his legacy should be.

*And for the record minimizing “child rape/molestation” as “diddling” is a self soothing technique the user employs to lessen their own uncomfortableness with the word and the idea of child molestation. So how about starting by growing the fuck up and facing that this shit happens. Denying it and excusing it helps no one.