How to Get Your Kids to Read

Being a writer makes book culture hugely important to my life. A few days ago friends and I were talking about how it rubs off, and many people, including my partner and the friends I was talking with, find themselves reading more because of me. This makes me incredibly happy. Like, wiggle my ears if I could happy.

A lot, most even, of my “method” is really just talking about the books I read. Bad or good or meh. Encouraging people to talk about things that interest them encourages them to learn more about those things, which often means reading. I even have my partner, who tends to not like fiction much at all, reading the Dresden Files and Richard Matheson and Ray Bradbury.

Therefore getting kids (and the people around you in general) comes mostly from making books habit. This starts real young by reading to them and having a variety of reading materials available. Trips to the library and bookstore help too. Schools can help encourage reading a lot (especially if you are lucky enough to have a great school librarian), by creating a social culture where reading is a prized behavior.

But any study on reading will tell you that outside of school people stop reading. I believe that a lot of this is because there’s so much required reading and required interpretation/reporting on books that once out of school kids want a break. No harm, unless they don’t get that itch to pick one up again. So how do we do that?

The first obstacle is letting kids enjoy reading. This means make sure they have access to a large variety of books. From fiction and non, to specific genres or subjects like animals books or science fiction. But don’t forget about all the beautiful kinds of media out there. Comics and manga, ebooks and even audio books. Short stories, poems, plays. I try to have a little of everything, to encourage my kids to try the different kinds of books with me. Then I give them opportunities to pick out what they like.

Second, this August we started mandatory reading time. It began as a way to help Mini have more calm down time before bed (and thus get to sleep sooner) and help Mister, my son, who is autistic, be less intimidated with large blocks of text. Our format for reading time is; 8pm- Everyone at home reads to themselves (a book entirely of their choice), 8:30pm Get ready for bed (bed clothes, brush teeth, feed pets), 8:45pm- I read a book we all chose to the kids.

This has worked out very well. Very, very well. While there was some resistance at first (we started with 10 min self-read time then went up to 30 min.) in only a few weeks it became routine and I noticed a improvement in the kids’ willingness to read, their fluency (reading fluidly and less sounding out or stumbling over words) and their comprehension. (Comprehension is a huge thing for Mister who is very literal minded. He reads well, but can’t always translate words into images in his head.) It helped immensely that Jason and I were reading as well because suddenly reading alone became a social event. Other than dinner it’s the one time of day we all always hang out together. (And you can often find a way to cuddle too while reading.)

The third thing to do is the hardest. Make reading culture part of your everyday life. We do this in a whole bunch of ways. We talk about the books we read (what we liked, what we didn’t like, what happened in them). We look at cover art and talk about it. We go to bookstores as a group and explore. I signed my kids up for a GoodReads account and began encouraging them to keep track of, rate and review the books they read (they really love this, and it helps with comprehension!) And we have a challenge. For every ten books the kids read (on their grade/reading level, which for my kids means chapter books) I buy them a new book of their choice. We keep a chart on the wall where they write the titles of the books they read (and we count the books I read to them too, if they are about grade level.)

So far since June or so Mister and Mini have each read 20 books. They’re both at the top of their class in reading. That isn’t actually the goal though. Today Mister came home from school super upset. He’s still learning self-calming and stress-handling techniques. He wanted to read to help himself calm down. THAT is what this is all about.

So; make reading a family habit and part of your family’s social culture and make sure your kids have a wide variety of materials to read.

I want to add a note on special needs readers, too.
Many disabilities make reading a special kind of challenge. Mister, for example, always loved to be read to, but making the transition to him reading more than just his few favorite books has been difficult. We started with magazines about his favorite subjects. Lego Magazine, a video game magazine with an article on the best games of all time, and small articles about dogs. Then he moved onto picture-heavy chapter books, namely the Captain Underpants books. He still prefers these, but does read other chapter books as well.

Different disabilities raise different challenges, so it’s important to know exactly what challenges a child faces when s/he tries to read. I don’t mean the disability name or what it does, but things like “The book is too big”, “I lose interest after a few minutes” or “The words don’t make sense”. ADD/ADHD kids can sometimes do better with shorter reading times, short stories, or comics/manga. Dyslexic kids can be helped by supported reading (you reading with them, or ebooks with a text to read program) or audio books. The important thing is that it’s a positive thing, with little stress.

It’s possible you might never get your kids to love reading. It’s also possible that even reluctant readers commonly seek out online articles, game manuals and all kinds of reading material that they don’t think of a “reading”. How do you know unless you try?

If you have any tips on getting kids (or adults) to read, feel free to leave them in the comments.